Comments on: Cross Cultural Relationships : Summary

By: CrystalTao

CrystalTao — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 23:45:48 +0000

One of the psychological theories describes Love as triangle of Friendship, Passion and Responsibility.
In my opinion at least the element of Passion is stronger in cross-cultural relationships and is more immune to fading away with time.

By: Fili

Fili — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 12:48:48 +0000

Nitzan – 81 is mostly based on HK-British couples. Hong Kong is a poor country? in what standards? The social stereotypes involved with rich men paying for relationships with willing women from lower social status is a completely different matter.

By: Fili

Fili — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 12:46:37 +0000

Hey Susan, good to hear from you. I hope all is well with this PhD over there.

Yeah, I agree with what you say. I wish it would be simpler than that, but culture often is used as a stereotypical excuse for negatives rather than emphasizing the positives.

By: nitzan100

nitzan100 — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 11:30:20 +0000

I think the 81 one do not represent the main drive for cross cultural relationships.
Women form poor country who want live in much more prosperous country and to live with rich husband which they can hardly find in their home county.
on the other side there is a man who want beufitul/young girl for him, which he cannot find in his country nither.
the “cross cultural probelms” are the price that they both pays for that.
other kind of relationships are really rare.

By: Susan Chen

Susan Chen — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 21:01:40 +0000

Hi, Fili. It's me Susan from NCKU.
It's been a while I haven't heard from you.

In terms of cultural relationships, I think many scholars seldom take "curiosity" into consideration. We tend to use what you mentioned " that cross-cultural relationships require patience, acceptance and understanding from both sides and the ability to take those misunderstandings in perspective."

I think if we take a look with human being's early stage behavior, we seem to notice that little children are not really biased to any culture, so people actually "learn" to judge other culture and then start losing the passion to learn something new and different little by little. In other word, when people lose the curiosity toward life, it's very likely that they also will lose the balance of I and relationship.